Eric, I appreciate the response, but I think this fails to see the bigger picture beyond dating. Is the solution you propose that you learn her language and go to live in her country? I see the merits in some cases, but that is outside of the norm. If she does not learn your language, what is the solution? For example, I lived in Turkey for a few months, doing a university semester at an English university in Istanbul. I lived in a working-class neighborhood where no one spoke English after the students had all gone home, it was extremely difficult to do anything other than order food at a restaurant because my Turkish was beginner-level, at best. I felt homesick and totally isolated because of language and I wouldn't wish that on someone I had respect for. This is the dilemma I imagine - is it truly possible to fall in love with someone you can't understand, and is it responsible to do that?