The few times I've met with someone new, it was always on neutral territory. If you do visit her country, I would suggest going somewhere that is new to both of you as an excursion - it helps to build a bond, instead of simply invading someone's existing life. Both people see the world slightly differently than their routine. So about each question: 1) I find that 5-6 days is plenty as a first meeting. 2) I spent almost all day, each day with her. If one of you isn't willing to spend all that time, you're probably not comfortable enough, or just not a good match. 3) This is inevitable, and holiday preparations should be made. I realize it's a big sacrifice to take off work, but if someone is serious, they will find a way. 4) This is something that is very personal. I have shared a room on a first meeting, and I've stayed a few kilometers away also. This will have to be discussed with the woman and you will need to be very patient and accommodating. It's not a bad idea to spend it close-by, as it helps with logistics for an already time-limited trip. 5) No, save that for later. The first meeting should be about the two of you, nobody else. Do not complicate it by putting pressure on her - no doubt her friends and family will be inquisitive and perhaps judgmental. You may be forced to pretend to be someone you're not if you decide to do this. This is all my opinion based on experience. My first meetings have been amicable, and time well-spent because an adventure was made out of it. Best of luck.