Natalia , There are certain phrases or expressions in the Dutch language that may /can sound as an order or can come over as if someone is summoning you to do something. While in fact it is not an order or putting his will on you. So , yes , it is important to understand or realize this.And this goes for the 2 of you. And then suddenly there is a quarrel or big discussion about something , and he / she does not understand. I don't have to tell you that this can lead to the end of the relationship sometimes. When someone says in Dutch : honey eten (which means in our tradition that whatever food he/she was preparing - it means that it is finished and now it is time to eat it. It is definitely not an order - it is only to say that now we /you can eat ... Also when he says : Ik ga uit ( I go outside of the house )- it is only meant to inform you that he is leaving , to go to the pub / for a walk /to meet with some friends / or whatever ... If you don't like that , you can say :I rather would like you to stay at home.Or ask where he is going to - or you say I want to go with you ... Understanding this is very important.It can help to keep the mood in a relation proper and healthy. I myself , have learned this and so I use a different way to make things known and to use other words when I interact with Slavic women. That is what I am saying every time : learn the traditions and culture of Slavic women to the men here. It can save you a lot of head ache if you understand the way they feel about certain things and what you should realize when communicating / talking with them. In Dutch I is Ik ( иk ) Ik ga slapen ( I go to sleep ) Ik ga fietsen ( I go on a bicycle ride) Ik ga eten ( I go to eat ) Ik ga naar een restaurant ( I go to a restaurant ) Wil je met mij meegaan ? ( would you like to come /go with me ?) En nu ga ik eindigen ( and now I will end ))) ....