By my experience, there are other sites specialized for  of men and women where the goal is to have it.

This site is nice and aimed to make friendship and find a couple, I have seen women here Do not like to play games.

Intimacy is necessary when the couple has a total trust and willing to share their sensuality and pleasure mutually.

Otherwise some men doing these practices only rebates themselves.

It is My Opinion.

And yes, women need to be in a mood and completely interested to have encounter,

My personal experience is that a man shall have the patience, skills and love to give to his woman the pleasure as a crescendo in a symphony, virtuosity hands and words will make a beautiful and marvelous "music" from his woman.

Sal