Dustin, stories with prostitutes are the last thing you should be talking about publicly. You may think this helps your cause, but anyone who reads this just cringed. You also just admitted (publicly) that you have major psychological issues that need to be dealt with, and I'd suggest addressing them before you let people into your life. Are you saying these things here because you're fishing for pity? Women here don't want basketcase projects, they want a reliable and stable man who will be a strong leader. This site is not group therapy, this is for people who have a specific goal, and have something to offer to get it. It sounds like you need a therapist, not a wife.

Two months after I came back to afghanistan I saw a prostitute. It is not illegal to spend time with them if you do not have sex with them. I paid for 30 minutes just to hug and cuddle with her. At the end she sat down next looked me in the eyes and said "I can tell you have lived a hard life." I didn't say a word to her about my past. She understood.

Мне кажется, что любовь к матери и любовь к женщине, это разные понятия.
И так же поцелуи и объятия с мамой и поцелуи и объятия с женщиной - это разные понятия.

Если вы любите всех женщин, как свою маму, то это можно понять в какой-то степени. Можно понять также и то, что вы хотите обнимать и целовать всех женщин.
Но любить - это одно, а производить какие-то действия по отношению к незнакомому человеку - это другое.

Если вы встретите много женщин на улице, и начнëте целовать всех женщин подряд, я не думаю, что эта затея понравится самим женщинам.

Мало того, в противодействие подобному могут быть вовлечены полиция и психиатрическая больница.

So you created this thread asking "is it just me?" to tell us how wrong we are, when we tell you "yes it's just you". Usually whenever something isn't working for me, I try the advice of people who offer it, instead of finding every way I can to escape blame. Since you're being adversarial about it, I'll say it: your behavior and attitude is a major red flag and I don't know of any woman on earth who would find it charming. Suck up your pride and realize that yes, the reason is you. You need to find ways to change or your life will always be lonely. Good luck, Dustin.

You should read the thread again. I mentioned I changed things about my profile. What I will not concede is that hugging and kissing is some sort of sexual crime. If that is how eastern europeans think, then no wonder the founding fathers of america said to stay out of europe's business.

The sad part is I planned ahead and researched many preparations to marry a Ukrainian woman. It was a waste of time. To realize I have nothing in common with you people, even as a Christian, has made me realize just keep on moving. My woman is somewhere else.

"Everyone is against me"

You have asked for advice on why this site isn't working for you. People have given their opinions to help you succeed, not to criticize you. If you interpret this as an attack and run away, you again have misunderstood people's motivations. Looking in yet another country isn't going to help you, Dustin. There are major issues here with the method with which you're attracting people, which is a universal problem. I don't know what you expected to hear when creating this topic if you ignore constructive advice, but this is not healthy.

I have hugged and kissed my mom since I was a baby, and babies are the most innocent people on this world. If you associate hugging and kissing as a perversion or pre-marital crime then that shows there is something wrong with you. There is nothing sexual about it. It is one of the most innocent forms of affection there is.

//Она должна отказаться от этой жизни, чтобы создать семью.//

А почему она должна отказаться от своей жизни в угоду какому-то мужчине?

Prostitution is called the oldest profession in the world. Killing is considered the world's second oldest profession. Outside of a female war fighter there is no other job closer to me. I can guarantee a prostitute would understand me more and be more supportive as a wife than you can be.

That's exactly what, between a husband and a wife .... When you are someone's husband, then it will be appropriate to talk about the desire to hug and kiss your wife...
In the meantime, before becoming this someone's husband, you can read a lot, find out all the possible options for how to meet a woman you like in reality during this not an easy time of pandemics. And you can also get acquainted with the behavior and character of a woman you like, find out her interests, hobbies, etc. It would be nice to find out (if you are a "serious-minded comrade" to get married) - what documents you will need to prepare "if the stars come together."
Are you a resident of America? As I know, getting a bride visa for a foreign woman is a whole business...!!! I do not know whether this is true or not, but before issuing a visa to a foreign bride, they check a man for a criminal point and financial well-being...

I would marry a prostitute. Is she not one of God's daughters? I would not marry her and let her stay a prostitute. She must give up that life to create a family. Does the one without sin throw the first stone story ring a bell?

//Я верю, что муж и жена могут согласиться на все, что они хотят в сексуальном плане.//

Муж и жена являются уже близкими людьми. Если они решили пожениться, значит, они поняли, что могут доверять друг другу во всех сферах.

Но вы хотите сексуальных отношений с женщинами, которых вы совсем не знаете. Вы увидели фото, написали пару строк, и сразу секс. И возможно, не с одной женщиной вы ведëте себя так.

По-моему, вы противоречите сами себе. То блуд не хотите, то сами же хотите блудить, и чтобы женщины тоже блудили вместе с вами.

И в то же время, в христианстве непозволительно заниматься сексом не с мужем и не с женой.

//Христиане знают, что Иисус пришел от Девы Марии. Многие христиане не знают, что мать Девы Марии была проституткой. Иисус буквально происходит из рода проститутки. Если Бог так неприязненно относился к сексу, то почему он это допустил?//

Вы считаете, заниматься проституцией не есть блуд? А что же тогда блуд? Вы бы женились на проститутке?

//муж должен предоставить своей жене ее супружеские права, а также жена своему мужу. Ибо жена не имеет власти над своим собственным телом, но муж имеет. Точно так же муж не имеет власти над своим собственным телом, но жена имеет. (1-е Коринфянам 7:3-4)

Я думаю, что это агитация к насилию. Как это возможно, чтобы человек не имел права распоряжаться своим телом? Только сам человек и может. И больше никто не имеет права на его собственное тело.

//Что касается того, как это можно истолковать как целомудрие, я понятия не имею. Есть разница между сексом и блудом. Я никогда не понимал сексуального подавления. Я не знаю, чтобы Библия устанавливала какие-либо ограничения между мужем и женой.//

Так, если вы хотите, чтобы незнакомая женщина играла с вами в сексуальные игры, не называется ли это блудом?
Причем здесь муж и жена?

И если девушку воспитывали в целомудрости, откуда она наберется сексуального опыта?

Seeing how everyone is against me, this just reinforces my realization that I am not compatible with eastern europeans. I guess when my subscription is expired I will start looking in the Philippines.

If me telling a woman that I want to hug and kiss her is considered perverted, then that is a level of prude I do not want. I argue against having sex first as the basis of a relationship. That is perverted. Instant gratification in not a foundation for anything. I have nothing against sex. I believe a husband and wife can consent to anything they want sexually.

Christians know that Jesus came from the Virgin Mary. A lot of Christians do not know that the Virgin Mary's mother was a prostitute. Jesus literally comes from the bloodline of a prostitute. If God viewed sex so objectionably then why would he allow that.

Dustin, stop to listen to yourself. You're complaining that women around you are too perverted, while at the same time you're engaging in behavior that women here describe as perverted, as well. The women here are telling you exactly why they find you objectionable, but you're saying "that's just who I am". There is no pride in being right here - you can either let your ego be coddled, or you can set it aside and have a chance at being loved. And again, you're generalizing 340 million people as being all the exact same, which is absolutely incorrect, and seriously calls into question your judgment and ability to evaluate character. There are good candidates at any age, and there are definitely many around you, but this opinion you hold tells a lot more about you than them, and it's not positive. I repeat- abandon these views and be willing to listen and learn. Arrogance and inflexibility like this are fatal.

the husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. (1 Corinthians 7:3–4 ESV) As to how that can be interpreted as chastity I have no clue. There is a difference between sex and fornication. I have never understood the sexual repression. I am not aware of the bible putting any restrictions between a husband and wife.

Всё, о чëм вы рассказали здесь, возможно, правда. И вы, действительно не можете встретить женщину в соответствии с вашими желаниями.

В России есть поговорка: "получить всё в одном флаконе".

Однажды я читала в анкете мужчины из США, что он хочет встретить женщину: королеву в гостях, хозяйку на кухне и куртизанку в постели.
Но я читала также, что в США по-прежнему сильны: пуританская мораль и семейные ценности. Я не думаю, что пуританская мораль и христианство приветствуют сексуальную раскрепощëнность, думаю, приветствуют, наоборот, целомудрие.

В России есть анекдоты на тему ваших желаний:
Встpечаются два дpуга:
— Я слышал, ты недавно женился. Говоpят, что у тебя жена - коpолева в гостях, хозяйка на кухне, жрица любви в постели?
— Я уже pазведен. Она оказалась коpолевой на кухне, хозяйкой в постели, жрицей любви в гостях.

Чтобы быть хорошей женой, женщина должна быть:
В доме - хозяйка,
В гостях - королева,

How nice it is to know that there are smart, thoughtful men who deserve attention, interest and respect.

Браво.очень четкий и зрелый ответ👏

1) I never said that eastern european women are against marriage.
2) I am explaining my history with women because if you look up the conversation people disagree that women are sexually more aggressive. I have never met an american woman less sexually aggressive than me.
3) Rants about religious, political, and social norms are not meant to be attractive. How else is a person supposed to describe a society and condemn or praise it? The have a sexual relationship, then get a woman pregnant, then maybe she won't have an abortion, then get married is not a formula I want to follow. It does not make since and shows how perverted the west is. Since you are such an expert, what is the west's philosophy? More specifically America's philosophy?
4)All the good women are taken in their teens and early twenties in america. The marriage oriented and family oriented women in the west get married and start families early. I was too busy fighting two wars to have the time to start a family. After I left all I have encountered are sexual women. I have never met a serious minded woman. As the song states "Women just want to have fun."

Dustin, I think you have badly misunderstood the people on this site.

1) The women here are the most serious about marriage that I've seen on any dating site. Women in the post-Soviet space are far more dedicated to marriage, and maintaining that marriage, than any other women I've seen. Act in ways that make you deserve that dedication.
2) The women here do not want to hear about your past with women, or what your other interactions are with them, I can't express enough how much of a turn-off this is. These women only care about the person in front of them. I think your baggage is severely clouding your vision.
3) Rants about religious, political and social norms are not attractive - they make you sound unhinged. If you can't hold a conversation with a woman without making sweeping generalizations like that, you'll never be happy.
4) There are absolutely good women where we live, too. Feminism has not "ruined women". By the sounds of it, you're surrounded by all the wrong people, and mistakenly think that all women are the same. That's foolish.

Maybe you are right. Distant dating probably is not for me. I have been on here for 4 months and only one woman showed any real interest. As with her I talked about intimacy. I told her that as a man I want to please her as a woman. Her response was "smart." I should have realized they are not into such things. It is a shame. I really like a woman who will be playful back. It does not mean we need to discuss grotesque things. I only wish there are more family oriented western women. I do not enjoy the whole "make sure you are sexually compatible." Or the "waiting one month to have sex is a long time." or the "A woman should want to have sex by the 3rd date." I am looking for a playful or even smartass woman. If I say to a woman I want to please you as a man and she responds with "When is the last time you pleased a woman?" I would find that hilarious. I like a woman to jibe with. I do not know if I can adjust here. I will stay active for the rest of my subscription, but at this point I do not think I am compatible with anyone here.

Вы определитесь кто вам нужен на самом деле. Христианка? Рабыня, полностью вам подчиняющаяся? Мне вот лично не понятно.

Но ваш пост о виртуальных отношениях. При чём здесь стул и дверь. Вы ещё не видели женщину в реальной жизни!

The site will not post my stories of women treating me as a sex object. In short I have not found a family oriented woman here. Only women who have accidentally had children. I am too conservative for america, but it sounds like I am too liberal for eastern europe. I do not know where I will find my woman, but I have not given up.

I've been blocked a couple of times here, but it was either from a person that I had never communicated with before (I suppose they didn't fit my search criteria?) or because I hadn't read or responded to their messages and blocking me was a type of revenge, I suppose. (men without memberships can't read or reply to messages, sorry!). If you've been blocked multiple times while conversing, then yeah, you've done something wrong.

There are some very clear lines that you'll need to learn and follow if you want to be successful here. It takes a while to build trust, but it can be destroyed instantly. You'll need to realize what those topics and limits are, and be very careful not to step over them. They don't owe you that explanation of why they blocked you and I can't imagine why you expect to hear it, but you need to learn those things on your own. My advice - leave the talk about intimacy out entirely, don't go near it. If you absolutely require that type of conversation, distance dating is probably not right for you, or vice-versa.